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And O, this essay by Tara LJC O'Shea on receiving and giving criticism is a fine, fine thing that ought to be read and cuddled and taken to heart by every writer and reader I know. Not that I have an opinion about this, or anything.
This is not to say I have always been the best at receiving criticism graciously, especially right off the bat. Criticism stings, especially when it comes from an angle you weren't expecting (or worse, were secretly dreading but hoping nobody would notice). It's hard not to bristle and be defensive when someone points out, however gently, that you've messed up somewhere. And I have sometimes been guilty of arguing with my critics, when I should have just said "Thanks for your comments," and moved on.
Of course, even criticism which is intelligently voiced and meant to be helpful isn't necessarily valid. Sometimes the critic has read carelessly and missed the point; sometimes the critic simply dislikes or is ignorant of the genre in which the story is written. Every criticism has to be weighed by the author in his or her own mind, and either used or discarded according to its perceived worth. But the point I think O'Shea makes most cogently is that criticism is necessary and important to every author's development, and that if we are unwilling to hear anything but praise or the very gentlest suggestions for improvement, we are never going to be authors in any meaningful sense of the word at all.
My primary reason for not liking criticism -- I confess -- is that I am lazy. I don't like having to revise things that I've revised umpty times already. It's frustrating enough when I realize on my own that a chapter or a story I thought was finished still needs work; it's twice as frustrating when somebody else points out a flaw or inconsistency or weakness I hadn't noticed and I realize that it needs to be changed too. But laziness is my problem, not the critic's, and I haven't any right to take my frustration out on someone else who is simply pointing out the truth. Particularly if I asked for their honest opinion, and they did me the courtesy of taking me at my word.
And that's the last point I'd like to make. If you don't really want criticism, or if you only want a certain select kind of criticism, don't ask people to give you their honest opinion. If you don't really trust a particular person's judgment or think they have a bias that would make them unfit to judge a certain story, don't ask them to be your beta-reader on that story. But if you have asked for honest opinions and you have asked a certain person to tell you what they think, don't be surprised if some of the comments aren't phrased exactly the way you'd like or if they tell you things you're not particularly happy to hear.
If you privately decide that the critic is an idiot or a bigot and their criticism isn't worth squat, that's your business. But it's pretty unfair to tell them to their face that they're an idiot or a bigot and their criticism isn't worth squat after you asked for their opinion and they gave you what you asked for. As a beta-reader I've been stung by this kind of response a few times now, in spite of making every effort to be tactful in my criticism and to give the author a fair chance, and it really makes me not want to read or comment on other people's work at all.
Rant over.
This is not to say I have always been the best at receiving criticism graciously, especially right off the bat. Criticism stings, especially when it comes from an angle you weren't expecting (or worse, were secretly dreading but hoping nobody would notice). It's hard not to bristle and be defensive when someone points out, however gently, that you've messed up somewhere. And I have sometimes been guilty of arguing with my critics, when I should have just said "Thanks for your comments," and moved on.
Of course, even criticism which is intelligently voiced and meant to be helpful isn't necessarily valid. Sometimes the critic has read carelessly and missed the point; sometimes the critic simply dislikes or is ignorant of the genre in which the story is written. Every criticism has to be weighed by the author in his or her own mind, and either used or discarded according to its perceived worth. But the point I think O'Shea makes most cogently is that criticism is necessary and important to every author's development, and that if we are unwilling to hear anything but praise or the very gentlest suggestions for improvement, we are never going to be authors in any meaningful sense of the word at all.
My primary reason for not liking criticism -- I confess -- is that I am lazy. I don't like having to revise things that I've revised umpty times already. It's frustrating enough when I realize on my own that a chapter or a story I thought was finished still needs work; it's twice as frustrating when somebody else points out a flaw or inconsistency or weakness I hadn't noticed and I realize that it needs to be changed too. But laziness is my problem, not the critic's, and I haven't any right to take my frustration out on someone else who is simply pointing out the truth. Particularly if I asked for their honest opinion, and they did me the courtesy of taking me at my word.
And that's the last point I'd like to make. If you don't really want criticism, or if you only want a certain select kind of criticism, don't ask people to give you their honest opinion. If you don't really trust a particular person's judgment or think they have a bias that would make them unfit to judge a certain story, don't ask them to be your beta-reader on that story. But if you have asked for honest opinions and you have asked a certain person to tell you what they think, don't be surprised if some of the comments aren't phrased exactly the way you'd like or if they tell you things you're not particularly happy to hear.
If you privately decide that the critic is an idiot or a bigot and their criticism isn't worth squat, that's your business. But it's pretty unfair to tell them to their face that they're an idiot or a bigot and their criticism isn't worth squat after you asked for their opinion and they gave you what you asked for. As a beta-reader I've been stung by this kind of response a few times now, in spite of making every effort to be tactful in my criticism and to give the author a fair chance, and it really makes me not want to read or comment on other people's work at all.
Rant over.
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Date: 2005-02-12 04:23 pm (UTC)Anyone who writes merely for the gratification of receiving positive feedback to stroke their egos is not a writer. Is that an elitist attitude? Yes, and I make no apologies for it.
And I completely agree. Yeah, it's hard to hear that part of my story didn't work the way I thought it did, or that no one understood quite what happened in that scene I slaved over... but I need to hear it, and then I need to go and fix it.
Because, you know, I'm trying to hone my craft and tell the best story possible.
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Date: 2005-02-12 05:00 pm (UTC)If you don't really want criticism, or if you only want a certain select kind of criticism, don't ask people to give you their honest opinion.
I would take this a step further, even, and say that if you don't really want criticism you shouldn't be posting. There's not a thing wrong with writing for self-amusement, but the minute you post something in a public forum, it's time to pull on that armadillo armor O'Shea mentioned because the feedback is now out of your control. If I see an A/N saying that constructive criticism isn't welcome, I don't bother reading - not because I'm necessarily determined to offer constructive criticism, but because it tells me the writer isn't at all serious about writing. They're just in it for the squees, and the story probably reflects that.
Sure criticism can be ouch-y sometimes, but I'm usually flattered that the person thought enough of my story to bother. I don't bother with detailed reviews unless I think a story is worthwhile overall, and I assume that most people feel the same way.
Thanks again for the link!
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Date: 2005-02-12 06:11 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-12 07:25 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-12 06:19 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-12 07:10 pm (UTC)I guess I'm just not a writer, then. I'm not going to go back, in most cases, and revise something I already posted. And while I'm not going to tell people not to tell me if something's wrong, I'm not going to demand that they do either. The authors that most often discourage me about the idea of providing feedback are the ones who pressure readers to find something wrong and rant about how worthless any response is if it doesn't tell them what could be better.
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Date: 2005-02-12 07:29 pm (UTC)I don't think we're talking about unsolicited feedback from strangers here, though, so much as feedback from beta-readers and others during the writing process. Sure, maybe after the story's been beta-read and edited and posted someone will still find a major flaw that needs fixing, but it's not so likely. It's the people who are too precious to ask for or accept constructive criticism at any point of the process, or who fly into a rage when they get it, who are non-authors in my opinion, and I suspect that's more what
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Date: 2005-02-12 08:55 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-12 09:07 pm (UTC)It's not that I don't want to write well. I'm working on accepting and evaluating criticism. But... well... I write and post for fun and in hopes that other people will also have fun (or be moved) reading what I wrote, and preferably tell me about it. I want to write well because that will make my writing more likely to have the effect I want, if only on myself. But I also want to enjoy myself, and there comes a point where editing, especially restructuring, kills that. Maybe it shouldn't.
I am never going to be A Real Writer in the eyes of those who say the purpose of writing and getting responses is primarily to become a better writer -- or to become publishable eventually -- because, frankly, I'm not willing to put as much effort into it as they are. This is my decision, so I really have no excuse for feeling huffy about it.
But demanding concrit really does intimidate some very well-meaning reviewers, though I don't know what the numbers are compared to those discouraged by having concrit rudely rejected.
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Date: 2005-02-12 09:09 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-12 08:02 pm (UTC)It's a good essay. I'm hoping that I've grown enough that I'm able to objectively take well-thought out criticism or beta-ing, and in fact sometimes I crave more precise beta-ing, actual character and story thoughts as opposed to only aesthetics - grammar, etc. I don't think it's every actually easy to take criticism of a work though!
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Date: 2005-02-12 08:09 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-12 10:50 pm (UTC)Ouch. Well, nobody could accurately call you an idiot. And while you may have unresolvable and frustrating philosophical differences with people now and again, it wouldn't be accurate to call you a bigot either. Stubborn, maybe. :)
I have a great hunger for squee, which up till recently was coupled with an attitude toward my work much like
I also agree with
As for concrit not specifically asked for from me, I never give it. If I don't know the person or the work well, I'm liable to be inaccurate. If I do know the person but know that my criticism would be so unpalatable or drastic as to be unusable, there's no point in hurting the author to no purpose, especially if I wasn't invited to do so in the context of a longterm working relationship. By the same token, I don't want to receive it either, and so far I seem to have gotten what I want on that score. *shrug*
I am a writer, full stop, but I do constantly contextualize how I give and receive feedback, sometimes to the point that the workings of feedback take on a life of their own. I rather think this is unavoidable, at least for me.
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Date: 2005-02-14 04:20 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-14 05:08 pm (UTC)I certainly didn't mean to imply that my faults were the same as yours, especially as I don't know you well. I hope there are no hard feelings.