REC: Adult Virginity and Other Things (Essay)

[rj_anderson]

lydaclunas has written a truly excellent, well-reasoned and thought-provoking essay about adult virginity which I think deserves much more attention than it's received so far. Here's a brief excerpt:

Why do adult virgins get such a raw deal? Judging a person based on their status as a virgin is reducing them to but one experience (not even a character trait) -- one which (in my observation) has little bearing on personality. Though sex is an important part of life, with responsibility and consequences attached, I do not believe the choice not to have sex makes one any less a normal, well-adjusted human being in our society. In my opinion, that is comparable to saying that I am a different person because I have not had the common and important life experience of purchasing and owning my own home....

She makes a lot of other good points as well. Go over and have a look, won't you?

(And of course I had to use this icon.)

Comments

[ithildyn.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the link!

[honorh.livejournal.com]

Hey! I resemble that statement. *wanders over to have a look*

[ithildyn.livejournal.com]

Maybe we should start a club [g]

[harriet-wimsey.livejournal.com]

That sounds like me--I'd better go read it. Thanks for the link!

[guttaperk.livejournal.com]

Thanks.


I'm married now, and wasn't a virgin before that; but our collective cultural attitude towards virginity remains odious to me.

[mary-j-59.livejournal.com]

Thanks - that was fascinating and thoughtful.

[pbristow.livejournal.com]

Speaking as one who failed to remain a virgin approx 20 years ago now... Thankyou.

[timeheldinsepia.livejournal.com]

Hello!

I just wanted to let you know that I have added you to my friends list.

Regards,
Mary